Anonymous lilted: Hey emma, i was wondering if you could give me some advice? i go to school with this girl i've liked for a solid amount of time and i'm pretty sure she knows i have a think for her. i've been told she wants to get to know me and we hang out sometimes in like, a group but that's about it. how do you think i should go about getting to know her better?

If you’ve already tried to talk to just her whilst at group things (which can be hard), talking to her on Facebook is a good way to transition from ‘hanging out in a group’ to ‘hanging out together’. That’s how I started talking to both the guys I’ve dated. It helps make it a little less awkward, and you can start to establish a relationship one-on-one, talking about stuff you both like, blah blah.

Then you can coyly suggest seeing that movie you both like/hanging out and watching that tv show/swapping CDs (side note: swapping CDs has been used twice on me before. The first time, it worked, we dated for 18 months; the second time was after very little conversation and was literally the only thing we had in common and it came off a bit desperate, so don’t be too pushy. Ask when the time is right.)

I quite honestly have no idea why you’ve asked me this, I’ve never really been asked for advice before, but I hope this helps!

Anonymous lilted: I just want to tell you that I really like your picture and it makes me happy :)

thank you!

Anonymous lilted: you're so cute.

thanks so are you

Anonymous lilted: I hate you for being so hot.

i

wha

i’m sorry?

no one has said anything like this to me before what is the appropriate response send help

Anonymous lilted: everyone can say what they want but at the end of the day its only your thoughts on the breakup that matter. i hope youre feeling okay. and i hope you dont hate your boyfriend, ive been there and it sucks.

Thank you! Yeah I’m trying really hard not to hate him or resent him, because I’ve been there too, and it just makes life so much harder when you let shit like that get in the way of how the rest of it was really great, because at the end of the day, I did have some really fabulous times with him, which is why we dated for so long, and just because we’ve broken up doesn’t mean I have to deny it ever happened.

Anonymous lilted: Feel extremely free not to answer this because I know it's very personal, but why did robert break up with you? From what I've gathered on here you're pretty neato so I don't really get it :/ BOY IS A FOOL

Yeah, I’m not going to talk about it on the internet, especially not to someone who is on anonymous. It’s super super personal, and at the end of the day, no one will really completely know what happened apart from Robert and me. But thank you for being respectful about it. I got an anon pretty much demanding it the other day (the day after we broke up, actually) and it just made me so angry.

Thank you so much xxx

Anonymous lilted: awww poor hunny, break ups suck times a thousand and one :( chocolate, ice cream and tea! Goodluck with exams and when they’re over make sure to party party party!!!!!

I’ve already got a couple of nights lined up with some friends to just be myself again, starting tonight with my two best girlfriends in the whole wide world.Disney movies, Thai food, and white wine. What more do you need? Thank you! xx

Anonymous lilted: if you wana do somethign with your hair you shoudl chemically straighten it

• so so so bad for your hair
• and lose my signature curls? no thank you
• i can’t afford that shit
• seriously though the thought of not having curly hair makes me uncomfortable

Anonymous lilted: if it's any consolation, you're way cuter than him

i am as cute as a button shaped like a girl’s face. a girl who looks exactly like me.

imagine if you had buttons the shape of your face though

Anonymous lilted: you're a great person. fuck your boyfriend. his blog is shit.

i think i love you the most.

just

straight to the point

Anonymous lilted: Love you Em! You are amazing and wonderful and there is nothing some chocolate or tea (or both together!) can't fix. Hope you are ok x

thank you! I’m going to need to go out an restock on chocolate supplies, but yes the tea is very helpful. xx

Anonymous lilted: i'm in love with one of my best mate's girlfriends, and if they ever break up, i'd be willing to give up my friendships with them to have her.

Okay I’d really sit down and think about that for a while.

The fact that you’ve said it’s your best mate is something you really need to take into consideration. I could not think of anything worse than having someone who is supposed to have my back and be a really strong support network run off with my ex. It would be such a shitty feeling. Hell, I was terrified that one of my closest friends would choose Robert over me, because they’re really close too. They would probably never forgive you for it. Is that really something you want hanging over your head? Single-handedly making your friend’s life worse, and ruining your friendship?

How do you know the girl is worth it? Do you just want her because you can’t have her? You may have built it up in your head and put such high expectations on a relationship with her that you could be disappointed regardless of how things turn out. You might have put her on a pedestal that she’ll never be able to escape. It’s such a huge, huge risk. Your friends are meant to be the ones who are there for you when the boy/girlfriends come and go.

Does she know how you feel/does she feel similarly?

Just so many things are going on here and I’m totally not capable to comment on it. I just really, really want you to think long and hard about what the consequences would be if this ever happened. You’d be risking so much for this girl. 

Anonymous lilted: You are beautiful & kind & intelligent & incredible & i hope you feel better soon.x

You guys are all making me feely oh man

thank you so much xxx

Anonymous lilted: Break ups are probably one of the hardest things in life, and getting used to someone suddenly not being there is tough. I just hope you're okay and work through this with as little pain as possible! xx

I’d have to agree with you on that one!

Thank you so much xxx

Anonymous lilted: You should move on. Im sure there are lots of guys who would be lucky to get with you :) ps good luck with exams next week!

Yeah it’s not quite as simple as that. He’s been in my life on and off for like, 3 years, and we were dating this time for almost 18 months. Not quite something I can just forget in less than a week! I really just want to fast forward the next few weeks so I can just start feeling normal again.

aw thank you :)